Here is an incredibly interesting article from Sue and Nigel at Ultimate Transformation:
"We recently completed a series of sessions with a client who originally came to see us because he was impotent, and this was giving him serious unhappiness in his efforts to start a relationship, never mind find a fulfilling and lasting relationship. He had been to his GP who had checked him out, and he was "fully functional" on waking in the morning so a physical cause seemed unlikely. We agreed to take him on as a client because we felt that our skills and training were suited to his difficulty.
Initially things did not go well. In the beginning he had been clear that his problems with his ex-wife were at the root of his difficulties and the initial consultation seemed to bear that out. However, once we started the interventions two things became clear: firstly that the presenting issue was not what was really causing the difficulty, and secondly that the client was holding back on us and not really taking ownership of what he wanted to achieve. It was almost as if he expected to have a "silver bullet", that we would wave a magic wand and all would be well. Additionally, it was difficult to maintain rapport with him.
At this point we got tough. After discussing the situation between the two of us we came to the conclusion that we would have to explain very clearly the commitment needed from the client as well as us, and this we duly did. After an initial negative reaction, the client responded very positively and opened up not only his thinking but his whole approach to our sessions.
This was the breakthrough he needed. Over the course of the next two sessions we identified that although the difficulties with his ex-wife undoubtedly compounded and aggravated the issues, at the root was a belief that all people, particularly women, were evil creatures whose purpose in life was to cause him unhappiness and to take what they could from him. This belief was very strong as it stemmed from his earliest memories, both from his bad experiences with his mother and from watching and seeing his mother's behaviour with his father, siblings and others. Along with this belief were unconscious decisions that did not serve him and left him with difficulties making connections with people and unable to get emotional or emotionally involved.
We were then able to map new, empowering beliefs for him using submodality techniques as well as use transderivational techniques to address the unhelpful decisions and emotions that were getting in his way. Having addressed beliefs, decisions and emotions we moved on to look at his value systems in the context of relationships and personal interactions, resolving the issues in the value hierarchy and the values conflicts and leaving him with an empowering value system that will serve him well. In the final session we used a hypnotic induction to seal in the work we had done, reinforcing the new beliefs, decisions and values that will help him and not hinder him. The man who came in with his head down looking at the floor went out with his head held high and a huge grin on his face!
Sue & Nigel Barker
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